This month, I was asked by #othermothers what love means to me. This is quiet an interesting topic and I thought hard, reviewing every aspect of my life. When we talk about love, we all hope for this fairytale.. A beautiful love story….. What if I told you that it truly exist, only if you open your heart and mind to it.
I believe in true love, true friendship. However our world is made up of humans and to er is certainly human. How much can we forgive? and that’s where love is experienced differently. I will start off by telling you what love means to me from a mother’s perspective (using myself as an example).
We as mothers, love our children so much that we are naturally biased and will compromise to make our children happy. Most times when I shout at my son, it isn’t because he has done or doing something wrong but because I fear the danger he is about to put himself in. Love is certainly protective.
Child bearing hasn’t been the easiest for me and while I battled with the trauma of my last baby, my hope was to stay alive, to be able to nurture my kids together with my husband. Whilst I was in hospital, her interest remained my priority. Love is certainly caring and selfless.
Every mother has that moment when we wish someone can have the stubbornness for a few days but yet we prefer to handle the stubborn kid ourselves . Love is certainly patient.
I would not take my kids out at certain times, if I did due to necessity. I always worry that the person wouldn’t understand. My son can be very naughty when he is tired. In fact, he throws his tantrums when he is tired. So when I leave him in a person’s care, this is the first thing I explain to them. Because I want my son to be understood. Love is certainly understanding.
Love bears no grudge, can you image yourself as a mother bearing a grudge for your kid? We forgive without thinking. In fact, we try to make excuses (possible reasons why whatever it is happened), there is also the bias aspect (we want to give benefit of the doubt), we always stay positive and hope for positive when our kids do wrong. I will call that kindness. Love is truly kind and forgiveness.
There is truth, we always will tell our children the truth the best way we can. Who else would? We also want to be the one to show them the better part of life for the fear that they might feel let down if they found the truth elsewhere. Love is truth.
I will bring up this word ‘jealous’ . Yes you read right. Jealousy channelled the right way is acceptable (not this kind of jealousy “wanting to be like other people so much that we get angry with them” ) . I remember when I heard my son call another woman mummy. I thought in my heart, why is that so? Surely she should correct him. I am his mother (only mother and that title should only be for me). When you love right, it is natural to feel jealous when you feel someone is about to or taken that title.
Our ultimate goal as parents is to provide the basic need for our kids, we will go over the top if we had it all, we show kindness at every moment shared with them. My son will say mummy kiss it better.
One day, my son was walking without shoes and got hurt and he runs to me crying, lifting his feet towards me and said “mummy kiss it better”. My thought was, he’s got a dirty feet. However seeing the way he cried, I kissed his feet without a second thought and that made him happy. That was compromise, I wouldn’t kiss a person’s dirty feet but did that because I care and love my son. Love is truly compromise.
What if I told you that there is a love greater than that of a mother. If only we can love him too.
I love them that love me; and those that seek me early shall find me.
Proverbs 8:17 KJV
We all want to be loved right but yet we fall short of loving. Love is essential to our being.
What love means to me is being able to love right. To love as I would want to be loved ratherless of the circumstances.
‘If we all loved with all our hearts the way we would love to be loved, then love would know no fault’
If we thrive to apply this in our daily living, our relationships, marriage, community, etc would survive the test of love.
I have found peace and courage knowing that pure love exists and it has given me the strength to want to love right. I would not sacrifice my son for anything or anybody but yet he sacrificed his only son for me.
He knows my needs and the thoughts of my heart that he answers to it before I even ask.
He has seen my future and has made better plans to make it brighter than I can ever imagine.
He has forgiven me before I even realised that I wronged him and all we wants me to do is acknowledge my wrong doing and apologise.
There is no greater love than this. The love of Jesus, the only son of God. Who was crucified for my (our) sins to be forgiven.
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
John 3:16 KJV
A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
John 13:34 KJV
Love endures with patience and serenity, love is kind and thoughtful, and is not jealous or envious; love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not provoked [nor overly sensitive and easily angered]; it does not take into account a wrong endured. It does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth [when right and truth prevail]. Love bears all things [regardless of what comes], believes all things [looking for the best in each one], hopes all things [remaining steadfast during difficult times], endures all things [without weakening]. Love never fails [it never fades nor ends]. But as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for the gift of special knowledge, it will pass away.
1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-8 AMP
Fruit for thought for couples
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
Ephesians 5:28-29 KJV
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